flirting is vitamins
if you’re lacking motivation to take really good care of yourself, flirt!!!!
here’s what i’m covering in today’s letter in case you’re short on time :)
- why flirting helps us take better care of ourselves and how to infuse the energy of it everywhere
- recipes you’d make for someone you love (including and especially yourself): my famous braised chicken, my client’s persian wife-upgrade chicken, and an insane cucumber mint yogurt sauce
- the power of tasteful flirty multimedia w instructions (sorry to my former MIL judy who is a subscriber, you can totally skip this one jud!!)
- flirting tips from my time on the apps and my hottest married friend, lingerie alts for people that find lingerie mortifying (me), some spicy book recs, and an outrageously good playlist my bf ian made us!
- a truly perfect high-protein snack plate by one of my clients to spark inspo
- a spice blend i discovered recently that i’ve been smothering on everything savory
mindset reset: flirting is vitamins
we all can access the feeling (even if it’s been a minute)…that lil rush at the center of the chest. you linger in a smile with someone or you’ve just sent a text/dm (or email - very chic) that has a wink to it and the person on the other end meets you right there. they’re down to flirt too. or you’ve just shot your shot w an attractive british man on the internet and got a voice note right back (my real life example later)
hear me out: another key to feeling even better? FLIRTING.
i have clients of all ages - women around my age (39) that are moms (and also not!!) and well beyond, younger 30s (some w very young kids and also not!!!) and young women in their 20s navigating it all.
relationship statuses vary widely too, some have been married forever, others in committed cozy dating setups, others dating causally and some either not that interested at the moment or longing to be in the dating game. the topic of relationships/relationship statuses comes up in my practice more than you might think as clients share relevant info w me about their mental states when making decisions about what they’re eating.
one of the things that comes up frequently is how hard it can be to stay connected to their why. for instance, for a mom client, whyyy they’d forgo overdoing it on treats after their kids go to sleep (which would of course feel good in that moment) when they are just gonna put on another version of their mom uniform in the morning. i ask them if they remember that feeling of going on a trip with their significant other wayyy before kids, when their focus was on the cute outfits they’d bring and that they were genuinely excited to get on top of their person (again jud ilysm, you may wanna sit this one out). i want to bring them back to that mindset because the energy of that is really helpful to our process.
for clients in less vintage relationships, or who are not currently coupled up, summoning this energy, playful and flirty, whether they want to use that energy just for themselves or someone else, well, IT’S VITAMINS.
some of my clients have been in the practice for a long time and know personal details about my life and when they ask me how i stay so consistent and rooted in the mission statement to take really effing good care, i smile because i know they know why…or at least part of the reason beyond, of course, my profession and wanting to feel good in general…
i have a bf, he’s handsome and wonderful and well, i like feeling extra good in my body when we are together. (aaaaand now i get extra vulnerable and personal for you guys... thankful for this space to be really honest)