tools for indulging with intention
my guide to savoring treats like we do sex, heavenly recipes (sesame salmon and brothy greens & a homemade kitkat bar) and why i let my son get a tummy ache on halloween
here’s what i’m covering in today’s letter in case you’re short on time :)
- my tips and tools for amping intentionality around indulging
- 2 gorgggg recipes including a sesame salmon with brothy greens and squash sitch and homemade kitkat bars
- my approach to halloween candy-wise with my 7 year old oliver
- my preferred treat options (and why i still let oliver sample the crappy ones)
before i start i just want to say thank you so much for your notes about last week’s letter. they have meant the world to me. since having the essay out there i have cried more than i’ve been able to in years…cathartic oceanic tears…and it’s left me with more peace and lightness and the great privilege of being known. i’ve gotten to know so many more of you better too and have reconnected with people i haven’t spoken to in years and i feel grateful and squishy hearted. turns out so many of us needed a really good cry…come back to it when you need and lmk if there are any songs i should add to the playlist ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️ xxxxxx
mindset reset:
every year around this time (halloween adjacent) i always think of a specific client i supported years ago. he was/is an important food guy in ny with fancy taste and access to the best stuff…but the thing he struggled with most was halloween candy. more specifically: he would snack heavily on his kids’ stale halloween candy after his fam went to sleep. the treat itself wasn’t the problem (i’m a big fan of treats for moi and in my practice) it was that he wasn’t actually enjoying the process because he wasn’t present for it. my approach involved blood sugar balancing and amping protein, but it also involved amping awareness particularly around indulging and releasing shame around wanting and having treats (one of the great joys of lifeee).
my practice has always been equal parts results oriented and self compassionate and anytime there’s a gap between our intentions and our actions it’s a good time to do some self-compassionate anthropological digging in the kindest way possible. there was zero shame in the stale candy sitch, but there was some misalignment since he was so passionate about intentional, very nice food experiences…so we decided on a plan and an exercise to reroute indulgence to a conscious experience…